Can you chart someone’s sexual orientation?

Thankfully, NO!!!!

Although, there are lots of astrology and numerology sites out there that would have you believe otherwise. This has been on my mind lately, because it’s PRIDE time of year and there has been a lot in the news lately about the SCOTUS decision in regards to gay marriage in the USA. Our gay neighbors to the south can finally get married.

I read an article once, and I haven’t been able to find it since, where the astrologer in question basically said that trying to determine sexual orientation via a chart, no matter how well-intentioned, comes from a place of discrimination because the astrologer or numerologist is looking for things that are considered to be abnormal. I tend to support this opinion. Sexual orientation is not abnormal – we all have one, even the folks who aren’t sexual. It’s normal – no matter what your orientation is.

My opinion on this started to form in the 90s when I was card reading at Little Mysteries. Obviously not all of the clients were straight but the Tarot deck that I was using contained traditional male/female binary images with traditional meanings. This was frustrating to me because the cards felt limiting. I switched to a deck that contained extra cards for the gay community – but no one wanted to choose them for the deck. Leaving them in was redundant because now there would be three Lovers cards and three of each court card.

So that was no good, either. It also further pigeon-holed people because now if you weren’t straight you must have been gay.

And, of course, few people wanted to out themselves to the fortune teller by picking the gay cards.

Head – desk. Repeat.

In the twenty years since, there has been a great deal of opening up concerning this aspect of the Sexual Revolution that started when my mother was a teenager. People are much more open now, and we are aware of those that challenge the binaries of male/female or straight/gay. It’s a lot to take in, and with the terminology changing all the farking time, it is a confusing arena for most of us.

My belief is still that you can not determine a person’s sexual orientation with any sort of numerology chart, no matter how many Master Numbers they have, no matter their Soul Numbers, nope, zip, nada, not happening.

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I defer to the work of noted researcher Alfred Kinsey, who spent more time studying human sexuality than anyone else on earth:

Males (and later females, as well) do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual.

The heterosexuality or homosexuality of many individuals is not an all-or-none proposition.

There is a tendency to consider anything in human behavior that is unusual, not well known, or not well understood, as neurotic, psychopathic, immature, perverse, or the expression of some other sort of psychologic disturbance.

What this means is that for humanity, sexuality exists on a spectrum and just because we don’t “get it” doesn’t make it wrong. The Kinsey scale of sexual behaviour contained seven categories, not two, and even this was felt to be limiting.

We are fluid creatures and not the same throughout our lifetimes. Not everyone acts on this. Some people are not comfortable leaving a heterosexual framework even if they have feelings that place them elsewhere on the spectrum. Others have no problem with flowing from one end of the spectrum to the other and do so with ease. The same can be said for any one of the sexual paradigms that exists; there will always be those at home in one category over another, who may never feel the urge to explore anything else or those who can’t wait to sample from the whole damned buffet.

BUT our sexual identity makes up a huge chunk of who we are, so this is, understandably, something we seek answers to when we investigate charts. I’ve had clients insist that I need to show them the numbers or planets that showed their husband was secretly gay or that could help them prevent their daughter from “turning into a lesbian”. Confidentiality issues aside – I just can’t help you with that. What our maps of consciousness can show us, is the process of evolution that we undergo in the whole of our lives as we live and learn, and make choices based on our free will. The numbers can point to a preponderance of masculine or feminine energy within us but that does not firmly dictate who we become because the energy of the numbers themselves operates on a spectrum. Ultimately, whatever place on the sexual scale that we occupy at whatever time in our lives, is wherever we are supposed to be, in that area of our life.

If you don’t like that, well….tough tits.

If we had all the answers, and they were cut and dried absolutes, we’d have no reason to get out of bed!!

 

 

 

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